Although
sex may be a topic that is considered taboo for many, among girlfriends sex
talk is very common. Women have the ability to open up to other women and
disclose our most intimate thoughts, feelings, and experiences, especially with
our best friends. Girlfriend talk is open, honest, and often, graphic. Juicy
details, steamy experiences, and specifics—such as size, number of sexual
partners, wild fantasies, new experiences—are all within the realm of subjects
discussed among girlfriends. What are the sexual topics women usually talk
about? Here are just a few:
Size: Yes! Women talk
about the size, shape, form and more with girlfriends.
When my husband and I started dating, I had to call my best friend and tell her about my first sexual experience with him. I told her everything, including his size! —Diane B., Deerfield, VA
When my husband and I started dating, I had to call my best friend and tell her about my first sexual experience with him. I told her everything, including his size! —Diane B., Deerfield, VA
Orgasms: Women talk to other
women about their orgasms (whether they reach them or not), the sensations and
the first and last time they had one!
I call my best friends and tell them everything about my sex life. They know about my sexual adventures, my sexual frustrations, and my ‘O’ moments. I find it safe to vent with them, and I always get a good set of ears to listen and sometimes useful advice. —Sara V., Miami, FL
Performance: Women talk to other
women about the overall performance of their sexual partners (whether they tell
their sexual partners or not)!
When I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, the experience was not so great. He called me the next day to ask me if I had told my best friend. I replied, ‘Of course I did!’ Needless to say he made a greater effort the next time we were intimate. —Tamara C., Dallas, TX
When I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, the experience was not so great. He called me the next day to ask me if I had told my best friend. I replied, ‘Of course I did!’ Needless to say he made a greater effort the next time we were intimate. —Tamara C., Dallas, TX
Sexual
Adventures:
Sexcapades, sex in unusual places, new positions and moves, and all stories
worthy of Samantha Jones (of Sex and the
City) are vividly disclosed among women.
Although my husband and I have been married for a long time and our sex life is great, every once in a while we engage in something different that takes our sex life to a whole new level. I call my best friend to tell her! —Odilia V., Flower Mound, TX
Although my husband and I have been married for a long time and our sex life is great, every once in a while we engage in something different that takes our sex life to a whole new level. I call my best friend to tell her! —Odilia V., Flower Mound, TX
Sexual
Fantasies:
Women may not tell men about their sexual fantasies. However, girlfriends have
the inside scoop on the fantasy scenarios that cross our minds. Some of them,
however, are ours to keep.
Likes: Women tell their
girlfriends about what they like or would like to have during sex. Where we
like to be touched, what time of the day we prefer to have sex, where, and how
we like it are good topics of conversation among women.
I love my husband’s anatomy, especially his genitalia. I think he is glorious when he gets undressed! I have told my two best friends how pretty his manhood is. —Evaluna R., Fort Worth, TX
Dislikes: Girlfriends have
privileged information on our dislikes during sex. They also have the honest
truth on the things that we totally dislike about our partners but that we
would never tell them for fear of hurting his feelings (like our dislike for
his back hair, for example).
Wishes: If we wish our
partner was more romantic, more passionate, stronger, more sensitive, would
last longer or would want less sex, our girlfriends know it.
There
are many benefits to sharing about sex with friends. According to a study
conducted by Harvard University, having a confidante boosts physical
functioning and vitality among women. Moreover, open and honest talk with a
confidante also can help reduce stress. Women laugh and experience a total
feeling of abandonment with close friends. That comfort allows us to be
ourselves and to not have to pretend, lie, or hide our thoughts, feelings, and
emotions. Talking to other women also may help us better understand ourselves,
can lead to “aha” moments, and make us feel connected and understood. Many
times, women feel as if though their experiences are particular to them, but
when they discover that other women feel, think, and behave the same, there is
a sense of relief and self-confidence is strengthened. Moreover, women may get
useful support, advice, and ideas from other women. Beware, however, that some
persons may not be good at offering advice, may not be the right audience to
listen to sex-related topics, or may be judgmental. Trust your instincts about
with whom you share and how much!
For
many years, our culture and society has made us feel as though women are not
supposed to be sexual, so, when sharing about your sex life, make sure you do
not leave the conversation feeling bad about your sexuality. First, establish
that whoever you talk with will respect your privacy. Secondly, determine that
your confidante is comfortable talking about sex. Some people, even close
friends, are not comfortable with certain topics, so it’s important that
whoever you choose to be the recipient of your most intimate details, is
willing to listen. Lastly, make certain that you are surrounded by people who
are willing to provide a safe space for you without judgment. So next time you
are among girlfriends, go ahead: Talk about sex. The results can be very
beneficial to your emotional and mental health—and maybe even your sex life!
According
to Mamiverse.com, girlfriends share with each other everything related to their
sexual experience, including orgasms - whether achieved or not, size, number of
sexual partners, fantasies, new experiences, sexual likes and dislikes etc.
There
are many benefits to talking about sex with friends. A study conducted by
Harvard University says that having a confidante boosts physical functioning
and vitality among women. Moreover, open and honest talk with such confidantes
also can help reduce stress.
However,
it is important who to share information with. According to the site, the first
thing to do is to make sure that all parties respect each other's privacy.
Secondly,
the confidantes should open to talking about sex. Some people, even close
friends, are not comfortable with certain topics, so it's important to be
discerning.
Lastly,
it is important to share sexual information only with people who are willing to
provide a safe space without judgment.