1) Think of his greatest gesture for you
It maybe how he got you breakfast in bed or sacrificed that big job to be in the same city with you, reliving those gestures, big or small, may just about keep you in line. Before you slip, thinking of the many times that he actually showed how much he cared for you can work wonders.

2) Keep his presence in your everyday life
In a long distance relationship? Make him a part of your everyday life by splashing happy pictures of you and him around your space; play his favourite music; or even cook up food he relishes the most! Staying apart can be hard and can definitely make you stray, but in the end it's a choice you make. "Temptations are never in the external world, it is in our attitude. And if we believe we must get what we are tempted by, well, we give in. But when we believe in a philosophy that we don't have to get everything that we desire, it becomes easy to control our temptations -- whether in lust or in anything else," says Varkha Chulani, Clinical Psychologist & Psychotherapist, Lilavati Hospital, Mumbai.
 

3) Talk about it 
Remember that he knows about temptation as much as you do. And, who knows, he may have been facing the same dilemma! If you are in a loving, trusting relationship, having a frank discussion about your relationship jitters may be the right thing to do. "When you speak up, you may realize that you are indeed very close and it may wake you up to reality. It will also help you reassess whether you want to go that way at all

4) Re-evaluate your relationship
http://eantiagingskincare.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/anti-aging-skin-care-products.jpg If the urge to cheat is really very strong, so much so that you are willing to lose someone you love so much and are committed to, maybe the relationship has run its course. "Two things may happen. Either it will help you figure out that there is something 'wrong' and therefore you want out. Alternately, you may realize that there is an issue with your relationship which if you do address, will help you steer clear of straying.

5) Get a wingman
If you really, really can't keep it together, get a trusted friend to talk you out of it. This all important role will entail drastic measures like ensuring that you do not drink too much at a party teeming with attractive men and that you always go back home... alone. This friend, who has seen you with your man and knows how important your relationship is, will always be there to put things in perspective. He will also ask you tough questions like: "How would you feel if he cheated on you?"

If you want to remain in your partnership. Lovers who have stayed together for a long period do most if not all of the following means to strengthen their love as a couple.

• Understand your partner. When you became a couple, you were probably got attracted to the best characteristics of your partner. But it should not end there. You should also be able to know and accept your partner’s shortcomings as well.
• Get to know his closest friends and family. Another way to understanding your partner is to know more about his closest friends and family. These people have known your partner from the time he was born and during his growing up years. It is also nice to hear interesting stories from the past.
• Talk openly. Each of you should be able to speak your thoughts and your feelings about anything under the sun. This is vital to cultivating trust between the two of you.
• Say I love you. Tell your partner that you love him every day. This simple sentence serves as a reminder of the love that you share.
• Actions speak louder than words. Even after saying I love you more than once in a day, simple gestures would do a lot to enhance the meaning behind your words. Intimacy builds a stronger bond between couples.
• Forgive and forget. It is sometimes unavoidable for couples to fight. Both of you should talk it out and try to resolve any misunderstandings as soon as possible. When you do, it is best to forgive and forget. Do not bring up previously resolved issues and link them with the current one.
• Utilize the element of surprise. Simple acts such as giving her flowers, or making him a cup of coffee, are simple yet nice surprises. These actions keep the relationship fresh and exciting as it was when the two of you started out together.
• Celebrate ups and downs together. Spend time doing the things that you both love. And when your partner is having some personal difficulties, you should be the first one to support and encourage them.
• Do activities together. Most couples have a shared interest. It could either be taking walks at the park, swimming at the beach, or watching movies together. You could also introduce your partner to doing something that they have not done before. Moments spent together create lasting memories that is fun to talk about in the future.
• Spend some time apart. Even as a couple, the both of you still have your own individual lives to lead. Spending some time apart helps the two of you to grow more as an individual. It does not hurt for each of you to miss each other once in a while. Reunions would then become even sweeter.

In any relationship, communication is important in maintaining good rapport and relations between two individuals. This is especially the case in a married relationship. You and your wife need to be in constant communication with each other, so that you know each other’s needs, feelings and thoughts.

However, communication does not necessarily mean spoken or verbal communication. As psychologists would say, only about 20% of communication is verbal. The rest is non-verbal or unspoken. This could come in gestures, activities, body language, or sometimes even silence. It’s sometimes simple. For example, it means that your wife can show you that she loves you by being loyal, or by serving you break fat in bed or by helping organize your home,office, for instance. At the other extreme, a spouse can also show dissatisfaction by giving you the silent treatment or avoiding the other spouse altogether.

Therefore, understanding your wife’s unspoken needs will be important in keeping a healthy relationship. Here are a few things you should know and do.

• Listen. Listening is a big part of communication. And this does not mean simply hearing what she says. Truly understand what she is telling you whenever she speaks. And, when she shows non-verbal signs, “listen” to these, too. Try your best to understand what these mean.
• Pay attention. Sometimes, your wife will talk to you, but her needs will not be part of the conversation. Still, if you read between the lines, so to speak, you will start to understand what she’s trying to say with her nonverbal and even verbal cues.
• Ask for advice or opinion. Sometimes, you will get context clues and ideas when you ask your wife for advice about important things. This way, you get to understand her opinion and stand on something. Sometimes, you will need to give her the opportunity to talk and express her needs. This way, she doesn’t feel compelled or pressured to initiate talking to you about something.
• Don’t ignore the trivial matters. In other cases, your wife might be too worried about something that seems trivial, such as a lost household object, small unpaid bills, or problems with the neighbors. When this happens, this might be a sign that something bigger is troubling her.
• Connect the dots. Understanding non-verbal cues will sometimes involve a little bit of analysis and logic work. Try to piece together the puzzle by bringing together observations that you gather from your encounters with your wife. If she is being silent or is avoiding a certain topic, then she might have some issues or concerns that are deeper.

With any relationship, the important thing is to show love and respect. Even if you don’t always agree on everything, show your wife that you understand, and that she can tell you what’s on her mind, be these problems, needs, or simply some small matter that is bothering her. Be proactive with listening. This means listening not just to the spoken word or the verbal cues. Rather, try to listen more deeply. Read between the lines, and understand your wife’s actions, so that you can respond to her needs in a more loving way.

It sounds counterintuitive, but studies have shown people get a big happiness boost before they go on vacation. And when you're happy, you're going to be a better worker. Schedule a bunch of mini-trips to draw out those feel-good vibes.

Get Bangs

Eighty percent of the time when you look at someone, you look in their eyes. And experts say hair that flops in your peepers can signal to your boss that you have something to hide—or that you're trying to be flirtatious, which isn't exactly professional. Opt for bangs that draw attention to your face—without covering your gorgeous eyes.

Wear SunscreenExperts say consistently sporting orange or too-tanned skin that obviously isn't your natural shade signals to your boss that you're self-absorbed and frivolous. Not only that, it's not good for your skin. Slather on at least SPF 15 before heading outside every day.

Suck Up to Your Boss

Yes, it's annoying, but research published in the Journal of Management Studies found that people who engage in a little brown-nosing are more likely to move up the ladder—and feel happier in the process. Don't be insincere (your boss will see right through it), but try complimenting her on her cute shoes one day. It's good for your career—and your health.

Use Condoms

Random, right? According to a study from Maastricht University in the Netherlands, people are more worries about their sexual health on Monday than any other day of the week. Why? Fridays and Saturdays are prime-time for getting busy…and possibly contracting an STD. Use a condom every time, so you can be on your A-game come Monday morning.

Watch YouTube Vids

Research proves that people perform better at work when they're in a good mood. So when you're tempted to bitch about a coworker, watch a quick funny video to get back into a better frame of mind.

Get Off Your Butt

A new study published in the Journal of Occupational and Environmental Medicine found that exercising during work hours can make you more productive. Can't hit the gym on your lunch hour? Slip outside for a 15-minute power walk instead. You'll come back to work feel pumped up and ready to tackle the rest of the day.

Play Office Politics

We know, we know—they suck. But according to a poll conducted by the Robert Half International staffing firm, nearly 60 percent of workers felt that immersing yourself in office politics is necessary to get ahead. So play nice with your jerky cubemate—you can gripe about her at home later.

Multitask Like Crazy

If you're awesome at checking your email while talking to your man and putting on lipstick, you should take those skills to work. A study published in the journal Human Performance found that people who are good at doing a few things at once are less likely to suffer job burnout if they juggle tasks at work, too.

Say "Thank You"

A new study from the USC Marshall School of Business found that saying "thank you" after your boss gives you feedback automatically makes her think you're more intelligent and competent.

1: Don't Compare Yourself to Other Moms

Don't worry about what other moms are doing too much. Try not to compare yourself: You'll know if you're doing all you can for your child, and no one else should judge too harshly. Same goes for when you see another mother doing something differently than you. Remind yourself that everyone is different (mothers and their babies) and you really have no right to say your way is better.

 

2: Trust Your Instincts

Do your own research, but also trust your motherly instincts! They are there for a reason! If it feels wrong to let your baby cry, then pick them up. If you want to rock your baby to sleep and cuddle them while they sleep, then go ahead. If it feels right, then it usually is right.

3: Savings Over Stuff

You don't need so much "stuff" for a newborn ... They outgrow most of it within weeks! Get by with less and put all that money you (or the people who came to the shower) wasted into a savings account for the child. Babies aren't babies forever!

4: Stay Calm

Baby's insecurity comes from sensing yours. Stay calm and the baby will be calm.

5: Don't Forget About Your Hubby

Don't forget about your hubby, and take time for yourself, and you both will be better parents if you do!

6: Set a Bedtime Routine

Get your baby on a bedtime routine nightly as soon as you can, usually around 3 months. It will make your life and their life easier as infants, toddlers and young school-age children.

7: Enjoy the Time

Enjoy the time you have when they are little. Never say, "I can't wait until they can do ________," because you can wait and once they do it you will say, "Awww, I wish they were babies again." Time flies.

8: Go Easy on Yourself

My best piece of advice to a new mom? Don't expect too much out of yourself. It's a tough road; don't make it harder on yourself by trying to be supermom. Your baby won't love you any less because of it.

9: Pick Your Battles

Pick your battles or you will spend your whole life fighting. Patience is a virtue, and it's hard to find when you have a little one.

10: Read

Read, read, and read to them ... This is the BEST thing a parent can do for a child's education.

The cover of the latest issue of Time magazine is sure to turn heads and draw gasps from readers. 

It shows a three-year old boy sucking on his mother's breast while standing on a chair.
The image accompanies the magazine's cover story about "attachment parenting" — an approach whereby parents breastfeed and co-sleep with their children, in addition to wearing their children in slings.

Jamie Lynne Grumet, the woman featured on the cover with her son, is a real mother who subscribes to the philosophy. Photographer Martin Schoeller shot her and three other mothers breastfeeding their children.

“When you think of breast-feeding, you think of mothers holding their children, which was impossible with some of these older kids,” Schoeller explained. “I liked the idea of having the kids standing up to underline the point that this was an uncommon situation.”

Child sexual abuse happens to 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys before they turn 18. Children who have been sexually abused suffer long-term consequences. They are at high risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, behavioral problems, prostitution, depression, and physical health issues. Although it may be difficult to defend children everywhere, it is important to know that parents do have power to protect their children.

Here are some ways to lower the risk of sexual abuse from happening to your loved ones:

·         Make your home a "No Secrets Zone"
Criminals use secrets to keep kids quiet and to continue the abuse. Make sure that your child knows that secrets are never okay. No one should ask them to keep a secret. It can be hard to explain, but teach your child the difference between a secret and a surprise. Secrets are something you are never supposed to tell and can make you feel bad. Surprises, like birthday gifts, are good and can be shown at a certain time.

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·         Respect your child's personal limits
Do not force kids to give hugs or kisses if they do not want to. When you force physical contact that kids do not want, you send the message that adults do not have to respect kids' physical boundaries. You also leave them helpless to abusive situations. Listen when a child says "no." There are other ways to show love and respect that your child may find more appealing. Some examples are a high five, a handshake, etc.

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·         Teach kids the correct names for body parts
By teaching children the correct names for their body parts, especially their genitalia, you allow them to communicate better. They will be able to tell others about their bodies and any contact that they do not like. It can feel uncomfortable to always use the words penis and vagina. It would feel much worse, however, to know that your child was trying to speak out to stop abuse and no one understood him or her.

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·         Monitor "one-on-one" time with adults
One-on-one time with an adult leaves kids at risk for abuse. It is not realistic to say that your children should never be alone with a babysitter or another adult. Whenever possible, make sure that your children can be easily seen by others when with an adult.

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·         Know that sexual criminals come in all shapes and sizes
The CDC reports that over 90% of children are sexually abused by someone they know. Spend time teaching kids how to handle any situation that feels uncomfortable. The "keep away from strangers" talk is not enough.

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·         Make the most of any chance you get to talk with your kids about this
The fact is that 30% of victims never tell about their abuse to anyone. The other 70% may simply be looking for a chance to tell someone what has happened.

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·         Not all background checks are created equal
Ask what is included in background checks for all caretakers, nannies or others. If you want to do your own research, arrange for the caretaker to go for the Police fingerprinting. This is needed to show a national criminal record. Also ask for his or her Childline profile, which will show any in-state child abuse history

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·         Avoid "Good Touch/Bad Touch"
As adults, we understand that a "bad touch" normally refers to sexual abuse. We know what it involves. But for most children a "bad touch" is something that causes pain. A "good touch" for a child is only something that feels good. Children that have been felt or touched such that their genitalia become stimulated sometimes believe the touching felt "good". Because of this, they do not see the encounter as something that they should tell someone about. By changing these terms with "safe and unsafe touches," kids are often less confused. This makes it easier for them to understand and speak out about touching that makes them physically or emotionally uncomfortable.

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·         Be clear and cover all bases
When talking about body safety, it is just as important to tell kids that it is not okay to touch others as it is to tell them that no one should touch them. Be clear with them about the different kinds of touching that are not safe. Then they are able to know if they experience it.

 

Make the First Move
Contrary to popular belief men don’t always like to make the first move. They are as much scared of rejection as women are. Chances are that he has tried and failed to muster up the courage to talk to you. So how do you attract a shy guy? Be the first to approach and talk to him. He’ll be thankful for it and respect you much more.

Lasting First Impression
Be sure to make a lasting first impression! It is what he will remember of you when he thinks of you. So wear a flattering dress, dab on some perfume and put some effort into looking good. Give him something irresistible to remember you.

Talk Business
Start conversations that are common to the two of you. Maybe both of you like to read or watch action flicks. Veer the conversation around topics of common interest and he’ll remember that for a fact. This idea works when you are nervous, because it isn’t difficult to talk about something that you like, as opposed to talking about something that is of no interest to you. So you’ll easily be able to hold your ground and form a lasting impression.

Get Him to Talk
Guys love to talk about things they are interested in. Ask him questions about his job or a bike that he owns and he’ll be talking for hours. All you need to do is supply him with positive responses. This will boost his ego because he will remember that it was you who led him to feel so good about himself and therefore he’ll start associating the feel good feeling with you.

Be Confident
Confidence in a woman is a big turn on for men. Doing anything with confidence gives you that much of an edge over the others. Meeting a woman who can hold her own in conversations and knows how to use her feminine charms is a delight to be with. So don’t be cowed down when you’re ordering for a drink or stating your opinions, even if they don’t match his. Read more on dating tips for women.

Be Yourself
Always be yourself, no matter what. Don’t fake a personality or style just to impress him. It isn’t fair to either of you, especially if you want to take the relationship to a deeper level. The fake side will eventually come out and it’ll be hurtful and messy to deal with it then.

Bare your Strengths
Try and show him your strengths. Accentuate your positive qualities. Do not dwell on negative experiences when just starting to know each other. Focus on portraying your good points like maybe your singing, for that take him to a karaoke bar and let him see that. If you have a unique strength like horse riding he’ll be totally psyched to know the fun side of you.

Body Language
How to attract a man becomes easy when you know the kind of body language you have to portray so that he remembers you. Smile a lot. Be cheerful and happy. Run your fingers over your lips or face to take his attention there. Flip your hair; talk in a sensual voice and indulge in some mild flirting if you can manage that. Top it off by dressing to kill and smelling great and it won’t be an easy task for him to get you out of his mind.

Today's divorce rates are high and the average times one will marry in a lifetime is even higher. AboutDivorce.org states that when considering "the current divorce rate statistics, 50% of the marriages end in divorce." Statistics Canada also provides a useful table depicting the divorce trend for the early part of the 2000's. In the next paragraphs, discussed are some steps to take when time get rough on the homefront.

1. Communication

When any relationship hits a rocky patch the first step of action is to take a step back for a moment and evaluate or even discuss with your partner how communication may be lacking. Men and women need to remember, seldom does the opposite sex really understand the other. We are just simply wired differently and unless you spell it out for your partner, word for word, they may not be getting the message you are sending.

When a woman cries, she wants to believe that her man knows what she is crying about. When a man heads out fishing for his day off and your still asleep in bed, he isn't thinking that you may be wondering where he is when you wake up. He is more concerned with gathering up his things up without waking you. Leaving socks and wet towels on the floor just isn't that big of a deal in the world of man, he isn't meaning to leave stuff lying around everyone for someone else to pick up.

Talking about small issues that may be causing much larger rifts in your marriage can be such a quick and satisfying fix. If only more people could find it easier honestly communicate with one this person they vowed to stay with through good times and bad.

2. Quality Time

The second point to consider is how much quality time you are spending together, with and without your children, if applicable. Do you find time for the special outings that brought you together in the first place? Although spending quality time together with family and friends is always important, time together alone is of the utmost significance as well.

3. The Little Things

Are your spouse's little habits that make them uniquely who they are, driving you crazy? Step back for a moment and think about it because chances are these are the little things that make you love them the most. Do they know exactly how to press your button in right order to get you to snap? Sometimes, it is best to just walk away and let it go.

When the little things are getting you or your partner down, maybe a trip to a favorite destination spot or a B&B tucked away up on a mountain would help to spark the flame when times get tough on the home front. Sometimes a change of scenery is the best way to clear the cobwebs from any relationship that may be stuck in the struggle of letting the little stuff get the better of you.

4. Sex

For some the word is taboo. Is there an eerie distance between you and your partner through this marital speed bump? You may want to think about how long it has been since you have been romantically involved with each other? How often do you enjoy each other and does this happen on regular basis? These are all questions that a couple should consider when experiencing troubles. Simply changing it up under the sheets can sometimes brighten the darkest of skies.

5. Seek Counseling

When all else fails and there seems to be no solutions or answers for your marital issues, it may be necessary to seek professional counseling with a licensed marriage counselor. A visit to you family doctor can provide you with an up to date life of the best people to see in you area.

In conclusion, hopefully a resolution can be found between two friends and partners before a divorce is considered or executed. However, in some cases this just is not possible.

Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/top-5-tips-to-avoiding-divorce-1547926.html

The bond that a child develops with his mother can never be severed. You grew as an organism inside her for nine months. She carried you and sustained you, sharing her sustenance with you through your umbilical cord. When you are born the cord is severed. It is never severed in her heart. That bond lasts forever. As we grow up we become our own people and may come to forget that woman who nurtured and loved us. But remember this, she will never forget you and never stop loving you.

You are the sunlight in my day,

You are the moon I see far away.

You are the tree I lean upon,

You are the one that makes troubles be gone.

 

 

You are the one who taught me life,

How not to fight, and what is right.

 

 

You are the words inside my song,

You are my love, my life, my mom.

 

 

You are the one who cares for me,

You are the eyes that help me see.

 

 

You are the one who knows me best,

When it's time to have fun and time to rest.

 

 

You are the one who has helped me to dream,

You hear my heart and you hear my screams.

 

 

Afraid of life but looking for love,

I'm blessed for God sent you from above.

 

You are my friend, my heart, and my soul

You are the greatest friend I know.

 

You are the words inside my song,

You are my love, my life, my Mom.

 

You want the mystical gift of making men’s hearts melt don’t you? You have seen it with other women who just seem to effortlessly work their way into men’s hearts and emotions. You have always secretly wished that this was something that you could do even though this ability to make men’s heart melt seems to be a skill bestowed on a few chosen women. In your efforts to get this enviable skill; how do make men’s hearts melt?

Live life without excuses and limits. Men’s hearts melt at women who are living life to the full. You don’t have to have the greatest job in the world or to have a perfect life but you do need to live life joyfully. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have bad days but it does mean that you navigate even the hard and bad times with resolve and a determined expectation that things will get better. This requires that you live your life with enthusiasm and steer clear of a constantly complaining spirit and attitude. Whatever your do in life…give it your all! Men’s hearts melt at women who love life and live with enthusiasm as that love and positive energy is wonderful to be around and it also tends to overflow naturally to them.

Don’t give up who you are for any man (or woman)! Contrary to what many women believe men’s hearts melt for women who are true to themselves. This does not mean that you let him have all your negativity as that is not really who you are; is it? It also does not mean that you pretend that all is well when you genuinely do not feel that way. It’ about being honest about what you feel and think without being nasty or nagging. When you can deal with men in your truth then you will make their hearts melt.

Treat him well without fawning over him.Most women think that if they grovel and flatter men then the men’s hearts will melt. But this tends to work only in the short run as we are naturally suspicious of people who flatter us. In fact after a while we just do not want to be around them as what they say doesn’t ring true to us. We also tend to look down on those who grovel at our feet for some reason as we were really not created with the capacity to be gracious to those who grovel at our feet. So treat him well but as an equal human being who is neither better nor worse than you. If you can do this then you will make men’s heart melt.

Look and feel your best. Take care of your body and dress it to advantage. You may not always feel like putting a lot of effort into your dressing so get simple pieces that show your features to advantage and which you can mix and match. Eat healthily without denying yourself the things that you enjoy. Find an exercise regime that works for you. When you look, smell and feel great you radiate a contentment that melts men’s hearts.

To make men’s hearts melt requires that you make peace with who you are and what you have been endowed with; and then to live your life to full capacity while being true to yourself.

1. Trust

Trust means more than keeping secrets and being faithful. When you trust your partner, you feel a sense of safety and security in the relationship. Trust allows both partners to reach high levels of intimacy and closeness. It also allows you to set boundaries and know they'll be respected, according to Young Women's Health.

2. Mutual Respect

Healthy relationships have two partners who respect each other for who they are. Respectful behaviors include considering your partner when you make decisions that affect the relationship, treating your partner with love and kindness and refraining from saying hurtful things during disagreements.

3. Healthy Communication

Healthy communication helps partners solve disagreements in a respectful manner, but it can also help prevent disagreements altogether, says the University of Texas at Austin's Counseling and Mental Health Center. That's because healthy communication helps convey your needs, wants, opinions and feelings to your partner in a calm, assertive and loving way.

4. Absence of Physical Violence

In healthy relationships, one partner never puts his hands on the other partner in a violent or menacing way. If your partner uses physical violence, no matter how sorry he is afterward, he is not the partner for you. Abusive partners act from a need to control and dominate, not from a respectful place of equal power.

5. Absence of Mental or Emotional Violence

Physical violence isn't the only type of relationship violence, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). If you're in a healthy relationship, your partner should never call you names, intimidate you, control you or force you to perform sexual acts. These are types of mental, emotional and sexual abuse.

6. Inependence

Your relationship with your partner shouldn't be the only significant relationship in your life, according to the CDC. Healthy individuals have their own friends, family members, interests and opinions outside the relationship.

7. Common Interests

No two people have everything in common, but people in healthy relationships have an overall respect for each other's interests and hobbies. Even when they participate in activities they're not interested in, they enjoy spending time together.

8. Equal Power

Healthy relationships are an equal 50/50 split. No one partner is the boss. Both partners discuss family decisions and have equal say. This means both partners have input in everything from picking the Friday night movie to making the family budget.

9. Similar Goals

Even though new relationships don't need to focus on long-term goals, more serious relationships are can suffer when both partners aren't on the same page. When one partner wants children, marriage or to live in a particular location and the other doesn't, it can lead to resentments and unhappiness.

10. Support

Your partner may not like everything you do, but she should always support your choices. For example, she may miss spending time with you, but she will never discourage you from going to school or work. In a healthy relationship, your partner always has your back.

11. Healthy Sexuality

Both partners in a healthy relationship share similar sexual values. They feel safe enough to express their sexual desires and never worry that their partners will force them to do things they're uncomfortable with. Healthy sexuality also includes agreeing on methods of contraception and prevention of sexually transmitted diseases.

12. Happiness

Even if your relationship is absent of unhealthy relationship characteristics, it doesn't mean it's right for you. At the end of the day, you have to feel happy about your decision to be with your partner. All couples have their rough patches, but overall, your relationship should make you happy more than often than not.