1. Trust
Trust means more than
keeping secrets and being faithful. When you trust your partner, you feel a
sense of safety and security in the relationship. Trust allows both partners to
reach high levels of intimacy and closeness. It also allows you to set boundaries
and know they'll be respected, according to Young Women's Health.
2. Mutual Respect
Healthy relationships
have two partners who respect each other for who they are. Respectful behaviors
include considering your partner when you make decisions that affect the
relationship, treating your partner with love and kindness and refraining from
saying hurtful things during disagreements.
3. Healthy
Communication
Healthy communication
helps partners solve disagreements in a respectful manner, but it can also help
prevent disagreements altogether, says the University of Texas at Austin's
Counseling and Mental Health Center. That's because healthy communication helps
convey your needs, wants, opinions and feelings to your partner in a calm,
assertive and loving way.
4. Absence of Physical
Violence
In healthy
relationships, one partner never puts his hands on the other partner in a
violent or menacing way. If your partner uses physical violence, no matter how
sorry he is afterward, he is not the partner for you. Abusive partners act from
a need to control and dominate, not from a respectful place of equal power.
5. Absence of Mental
or Emotional Violence
Physical violence
isn't the only type of relationship violence, according to the U.S. Centers for
Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). If you're in a healthy relationship, your
partner should never call you names, intimidate you, control you or force you
to perform sexual acts. These are types of mental, emotional and sexual abuse.
6. Inependence
Your relationship with
your partner shouldn't be the only significant relationship in your life,
according to the CDC. Healthy individuals have their own friends, family
members, interests and opinions outside the relationship.
7. Common Interests
No two people have
everything in common, but people in healthy relationships have an overall
respect for each other's interests and hobbies. Even when they participate in
activities they're not interested in, they enjoy spending time together.
8. Equal Power
Healthy relationships
are an equal 50/50 split. No one partner is the boss. Both partners discuss
family decisions and have equal say. This means both partners have input in
everything from picking the Friday night movie to making the family budget.
9. Similar Goals
Even though new
relationships don't need to focus on long-term goals, more serious
relationships are can suffer when both partners aren't on the same page. When
one partner wants children, marriage or to live in a particular location and
the other doesn't, it can lead to resentments and unhappiness.
10. Support
Your partner may not
like everything you do, but she should always support your choices. For
example, she may miss spending time with you, but she will never discourage you
from going to school or work. In a healthy relationship, your partner always
has your back.
11. Healthy Sexuality
Both partners in a
healthy relationship share similar sexual values. They feel safe enough to
express their sexual desires and never worry that their partners will force
them to do things they're uncomfortable with. Healthy sexuality also includes
agreeing on methods of contraception and prevention of sexually transmitted
diseases.
12. Happiness
Even if your
relationship is absent of unhealthy relationship characteristics, it doesn't
mean it's right for you. At the end of the day, you have to feel happy about
your decision to be with your partner. All couples have their rough patches,
but overall, your relationship should make you happy more than often than not.